What would you change?

So what's the question of the day or the year or the lifetime when it comes to raising children on the spectrum?

1. Would you change your child if you could?  
2. Would you make your child normal?
3. Would you trade places with someone else?

I asked myself that question many times, knowing that it was really futile to even ask it, because, its not possible to make my child un-autistic or normal; regardless, yes, I have asked that question that is basically "why me?"

Over time, though, I have learned several things.  I can sometimes look at Josh and its almost like looking into a mirror.  He reminds me of myself when I was younger.  I remember having similar symptoms when I was younger as well. just to a lesser degree.

Of course, had I changed something about myself,  Imight have made it easier, but it would have been harder as well.


I did not "mold " or force him into a particular behavior pattern.  He just fell right into it as if he were born to it(which, in fact, he was.). My wife I do the best we can as always and it is safe to say that it has been a learning experience and in a lot of ways, enlightening.

He is in mainstream class and he does tend to act more like a child than a teen, but he is happy flappy, but my wife and I are fine with happy-flappy.

I see no need for a change here.

So would I change this?   Nope.

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